First Time Being Whipped

I have written before about how I met Dave and how he got the impression that I was a lot more experienced than I really was, and how I played along with it.  This meant that I ended up with my first experience of being whipped taking place on my first night in his hands.  He had been doing this kind of thing for many years.  He was well equipped.   And he knew how to inflict pain at a pretty intense level.  So my first time was perhaps rather more special and memorable than it would otherwise have been.

Selecting Masters And Slaves

20% of women would be slaves - the ones with the biggest breasts

Once again I have been thinking about the BDSM enclave that I think someone should set up. Specifically I have been thinking about how the different categories of person should be filled. I think that only about 10% of the males can be dominant. They would have to be identified as the natural born leaders at around the age of 18 - maybe after two years in a school designed to both educate and select the best ones.

Practice

There is no way that men can be the kind of effective strict disciplinarians that I think they should be unless they work hard on themselves. They need to be fit and strong. They need to be able to inflict pain on their slaves without succumbing to pity. And they need to have the skill to handle the whips, the belts and the manacles to hold the objects they are disciplining in place. So in my ideal BDSM enclave there would need to be a programme in place to keep the men in trim for their role.

Humiliating Experience

Dave isn't really all that into humiliation, or at least the humiliating things he does to me are so comfortable and familiar now that I don't really register them anymore.  Being locked in a cage naked for an hour as decoration for his office while he does some work - doesn't everyone do that?

A Picture That Tells A Story

I came across this picture while looking at a tumblr collection that had plenty of interesting stuff in it.  This one stood out because it seemed to cry out for an explanation of how the scene came about.

Obedience - Physical Things Matter

Obedience is supposed to be something that comes naturally to a submissive woman, and it certainly does to me.  But the fact that it comes naturally means it isn't something I have really thought about.  And the fact is, I am only obedient to men I find physically attractive, and physically  attractive in the right way.

BDSMers have good mental health

A recent study shows that people who practice BDSM have good mental health.  I'd definitely agree there.  I think I am well balanced and have many fewer hangups than the vanilla people I know. Having recently watched my new friend Jen adopt BDSM, I wondered what she thought.  She says she feels happier and more relaxed than she had before.

So well done to the researchers.

I wonder if BDSMers should take over running things.  I imagine the Doms would like that.

http://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html