Friday, 3 January 2014
A New Year - New Challenges
So a new year.
There is so much that I have learnt over the last year. After years of dreaming about it, I have now spent a year as a slave to a wonderful man. It came more easily than I expected, mainly thanks to Him. I hadn't expected it to lead to so many friendships as well, but I am now part of a small community of like minded people.
And that is one of the things I want to change. Eight of us is a good number but I think we need more. I have spoken to the other slaves about this. Wouldn't it be great to recruit a new slave to the lifestyle. In particular, wouldn't it be good to find someone who has never thought about living this way before and win them over to it?
I think the way to do it is to simply befriend someone and when I have got to know them, see what they think. If they sound curious, introduce them to what goes on. Then maybe win them over. Perhaps it is a project where the plan is less important than following your feelings.
Another unexpected outcome. I spent Christmas with my parents and took David down to meet them. I was very anxious. There was so much that could go wrong. He is closer to their age than to mine. I had never really talked to them about anything to do with my relationship with him. It sounds strange, but I had no idea, no idea whatsoever, what they would think. Although I have always got on well with my parents I have always kept a lot of myself secret from them.
In the event it turned out completely different to how I imagined. Dad and David hit it off and disappeared off to the pub Christmas Eve. Mum and I talked. She had guessed pretty closely the way it worked with David and I. What she hadn't guessed, in my surprise I filled in. She was very calm about it. She said she understood as that was the way it was with her and Dad in some ways. I had always sort of suspected that - or at least I had when I let myself think about it which wasn't often.
So when the men came back I felt that Mum and I had a secret. But it became clear that Dad and David had been having a conversation too. It was all a bit awkward, but perhaps not as awkward as it might have been. After all, keeping everything secret would have been even harder.
So that was a funny way for things to turn out.