First Time Being Whipped

I have written before about how I met Dave and how he got the impression that I was a lot more experienced than I really was, and how I played along with it.  This meant that I ended up with my first experience of being whipped taking place on my first night in his hands.  He had been doing this kind of thing for many years.  He was well equipped.   And he knew how to inflict pain at a pretty intense level.  So my first time was perhaps rather more special and memorable than it would otherwise have been.

Selecting Masters And Slaves

20% of women would be slaves - the ones with the biggest breasts

Once again I have been thinking about the BDSM enclave that I think someone should set up. Specifically I have been thinking about how the different categories of person should be filled. I think that only about 10% of the males can be dominant. They would have to be identified as the natural born leaders at around the age of 18 - maybe after two years in a school designed to both educate and select the best ones.

Practice

There is no way that men can be the kind of effective strict disciplinarians that I think they should be unless they work hard on themselves. They need to be fit and strong. They need to be able to inflict pain on their slaves without succumbing to pity. And they need to have the skill to handle the whips, the belts and the manacles to hold the objects they are disciplining in place. So in my ideal BDSM enclave there would need to be a programme in place to keep the men in trim for their role.

Humiliating Experience

Dave isn't really all that into humiliation, or at least the humiliating things he does to me are so comfortable and familiar now that I don't really register them anymore.  Being locked in a cage naked for an hour as decoration for his office while he does some work - doesn't everyone do that?

A Picture That Tells A Story

I came across this picture while looking at a tumblr collection that had plenty of interesting stuff in it.  This one stood out because it seemed to cry out for an explanation of how the scene came about.

Obedience - Physical Things Matter

Obedience is supposed to be something that comes naturally to a submissive woman, and it certainly does to me.  But the fact that it comes naturally means it isn't something I have really thought about.  And the fact is, I am only obedient to men I find physically attractive, and physically  attractive in the right way.

BDSMers have good mental health

A recent study shows that people who practice BDSM have good mental health.  I'd definitely agree there.  I think I am well balanced and have many fewer hangups than the vanilla people I know. Having recently watched my new friend Jen adopt BDSM, I wondered what she thought.  She says she feels happier and more relaxed than she had before.

So well done to the researchers.

I wonder if BDSMers should take over running things.  I imagine the Doms would like that.

http://www.livescience.com/34832-bdsm-healthy-psychology.html

Train Your Wife

Of course a lot of people would regard this as horribly sexist.  But are we really supposed to pick up how to be a good wife without training?

I like feminism, but I like orgasms too

There are lots of things on the internet about all sorts of things.  One thing people talk about is whether feminism and BDSM are compatible or not.  I think they are.  A lot of people think they aren't.  I don't know who is right.  What I do know is I get better orgasms with a dominant man.  So if it turns out that you can't be into both - I'll go for the orgasms.  But until someone proves otherwise I am going to be both a feminist and a submissive female slave.  

Female Solidarity

I am a big supporter of female solidarity.  Sometimes you can please your master much better by co-operating.  Keep it up sisters.

Who Knows What Goes On?

There is a lot more spanking going on than a lot of people realise in my opinion.  I bet these fifties kids parents didn't know what was going on when their kids were playing ping-pong.  They all seem to be enjoying themselves.

Three in a bed

Choose your favourite.  I will judge you if you pick the wrong one.

French Humour

If you don't read French, the caption is 'he has given you a severe whipping. He clearly loves you.'

I like the cammaraderie between the two women.

Punishment should not only be done, it should be seen to be done

I think if you are being punished for something, it really ought to be in full view of everybody.  That is the best way to learn your lesson.

Historic Punishment for Upstart Woman

The Romans knew how to keep women in their place.

I think she'll be obedient in future.

I am partial to a vintage etching

I do like this scene.  I wonder what the story being illustrated is?

Jen's Progress

Update on how Jen is doing.  Back in February she knew nothing about being a slave.  Since then she has become a regular visitor and is completely obedient when she does so.  She says she enjoys being submissive.

Watching Someone Else Whipped

Dave has taken to a routine of a regular discipline session every evening before our evening meal.  He finishes work about 5 and now it is light we meet up in the gym afterwards.  Jen joins us if she is around.  We both strip naked and put on collars.  He then orders one of us to tie the other to the horse and administers whatever he is in the mood for - about 20 strokes usually.

Jen isn't always here, but he seems to have a preference for punishing her at the moment so I have had a few experiences securing her in place and then standing back and watching.  It is quite enjoyable doing the tying. It is very satisfying getting someone tightly into place.  Watching the punishment is arousing.  I know what it feels like to be in that position and I can judge how painful a particular blow is.  It is good to see the look on David's face as well.  I don't often get to see the determination and concentration on it.

It is also great to see the skin on the bottom going red.  I don't feel so bad about how big my bum is now.  It must look as good as Jen's does.

About Miss X

Quick list of what I have found out about her (I am such an anorak.)

Age 27

Not very intelligent but sort of shrewd and maybe even wise.

Two sisters, one older one younger.  Doesn't keep in touch with either much.  Parents separated but on good terms.  Doesn't see her Dad very often.

3 ex boyfriends.  Not very happy with any of them.  One of them could only come by masturbating, which he did over her tits.  (Don't blame him.  They are rather nice.)  Other two were okay but one got bored with her and dumped her and other bored her so she dumped him.

Hasn't really explored sex too much.  Never been spanked.  Hasn't tried bondage.  Not even sure if she likes oral either giving or receiving.

Very negative view of men  (Wince)

Fascinated by idea of a Master slave relationship, but has never considered being in one.

Self conscious about her appearance and weight.  Doesn't think she is attractive to men.

No opinions on politics or religion.

Miss X Visits

Just a few minutes to spare to bring the blog up to date on my Miss X project. Dave is away for a few days and so I had a chance to get into town.  I plucked up the courage to invite her back round after work yesterday.